Today’s Article covers 5 negative Beliefs that stand in your way in being a happy and successful Person. These habits are toxic and should not be part of your Mentality if you really want to live the best life. Most of them have been implanted into our belief systems through the society but we can and should get rid of them. At Mind2Set we are all about developing and maintaining a positive, confident and successful Mind which is the Foundation of any real success.
Don’t feel guilty or bad for yourself when you see one of those beliefs being part of your current Mentality. Nobody is born perfect and luckily we have enough possibilities in today’s digital world to find the information we are looking for. Knowing that these beliefs are bad for your happiness is one thing, applying positive beliefs that replace these bad habits is another. We will provide you with the door but you have to walk through it yourself.
Before we get started, remember that thoughts are just things. They buzz around the mind but are not something tangible. Only if we execute these thoughts and put them into ideas which lead to taking action can they become tangible.
So let’s dive into these beliefs, dissect them and create positive beliefs to replace them with. Feel free to take some notes and come up with your own personal responses to these beliefs as everything listed here are just suggestions.
Belief#1 – Blaming Others
This one is the most obvious out of the 5. It is so obvious because you are probably already aware of this belief. You might have heard it before or read it somewhere. The cold hard truth about Life is that we and only we are responsible for how we react to our circumstances. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we respond. Take a look at this article we’ve posted earlier to get a deeper insight into taking responsibility.
The reason why this is such a bad habit is that by blaming other people and outer circumstances we make our self a victim. Being a victim sucks because you are the one that allows other people to push you around. To gain control over your Life you have to step up for yourself and be accountable for your actions.
This simply means that you are taking responsibility on how you react to anything that happens to you. It is easy to live life on the bright side when everything is going well but the real test comes when things don’t go well. We are tested for our character in our bad days and rewarded for our character in good days. So if you had the choice to be either the victim or the victor, which one would you choose?
If you are honest to yourself and have some self-respect you would obviously choose to be the victor. Stop blaming other people for your failures because they are not to blame and it is not their fault. You give so much power to somebody if you blame them, in fact, you give them control over your feelings. And with no control over your feelings, no control over your actions – are you really living?
There’s something beautiful in taking responsibility because on one hand you will grow as a person and on the other hand it will help you become less irritated. You become less irritated because you exactly know who is responsible for the situation. Yes, other people might still upset you; yes, shit might still happen but if you take responsibility you are the master of the situation and only you can decide in what way it will affect you.
Step up for yourself and start taking responsibility. You are in the driver seat of your vehicle which we call life. You wouldn’t let a stranger hop in your car and let them drive you around – so why do this with your own life?
Belief#2 – “Rich and successful people are greedy and selfish”
Have you ever thought that? Maybe you have looked at some celebrity on Instagram or whatever platform and you have thought “gosh, this person is just so greedy and full of sh*t”. You might have thought this because you need a reason to discredit their success, maybe you think they don’t deserve to life that kind of life. Maybe you think that they only think about themselves and are therefore selfish and greedy. Do I hear some jealousy lurking in the back of your mind?
The Truth is, everyone is selfish. Yes, even you and I are selfish. We, humans, have egoistic minds and most people only think about themselves. All they care about is me, me, me. This applies to that celebrity you were calling out but it also applies to you. Because in the very moment you think such thoughts you express your own selfishness, trying to exploit a human being you don’t even know, just because you don’t think they deserve to be where they are – now that’s selfish!
Let’s uncover and debunk this myth that rich and successful people are greedy and selfish. First of all, let’s think about why somebody got rich in the first place. Do people get rich because they only think about themselves or do they get rich because they provide VALUE for other people and are therefore rewarded for that?
Money is energy and money goes where energy is present. If somebody gets rich they probably possess lots of energy because they have done something that draws energy to them. Therefore, it draws money to them. Think about the richest people on this planet for a second, the Bill Gates’, the Jeff Bezos’, the Mark Zuckerbergs’ – do you really think these people are greedy and selfish?
What about the millions of people Bill Gates helped get a personal computer and affordable prices? What about the millions of people Jeff Bezos’ has made happy because they can order their beloved goods from anywhere in the world; and let’s not forget the huge landscape that comes with it which provides people with jobs and therefore with an income to provide their family. Do you still think that Mark Zuckerberg is a selfish and greedy man because he has invented one of the world’s largest social networks (which you probably use every single day for whatever reasons)?
Don’t get me wrong – I am not trying to disrespect you – I only want you to open your eyes and see why this belief is so full of shit! Rich people are wealthy because they have done something that deserves wealth. Swallow the pill: these people are rich because they have done so much more than you for this world – and that is why they are rich.
Yes, there might be dozens of crooks out there who managed to get rich but trust me, the success doesn’t last very long and in the end, the truth always comes to light. The real greedy and selfish people who have become wealthy most often lose it later on and end up being dead broke.
If you want to get rich and wealthy, think about ways you can make this world a better place. Think about something you could invent, produce or provide that will help lots of people out there.
You don’t have to reinvent the wheel – absolutely not. Most things already exist and the Probability is high that someone has already done it before you … BUT… could you do a better job? Most definitely!
Belief#3 – Gossip
First of all, gossip seems to be natural. No matter where you go, you hear people gossip. They lament this and lament that… the boss is such a douche bag, the economy sucks, the weather is shit and the food tastes bad. Blah Blah Blah.
Gossiping does not help you nor does it make you a trustworthy and credible Person. The Problem with gossiping is not talking to other people about other people, the problem is talking in a negative way and worse than that, believing everything you hear. This habit probably comes from our educational system where we are conditioned to sit in a room quietly for hours and believing everything the person in front of us is saying. What if they are wrong? What if they have no idea what they are talking about?
Chances are high that that is exactly the case because no one on this planet has all the answers and no one knows it all. Chances are even higher that by you believing things just because somebody has said them, you make yourself a fool. Don’t be so naive to just believe what others are saying, always investigate for yourself. This correlates with the bad habit of blaming other people.
If your stockbroker advises you to invest all of your money into a certain stock and you lose it all, who is to blame? The stockbroker for thinking he knows how to beat the market or you for blindly trusting him your hard-earned money? Crooks and fraudsters take advantage of people naiveness because they know that only these kinds of people will fall for their tricky schemes. Do yourself a favor and develop your own opinion – you don’t have to become an expert at everything but knowing what a topic is about gives you the confidence to trust your own intuition.
Today, more than ever, we live in a world where we have absolutely no excuses for not having a mind of our own. By simply typing some letters into our smartphones or computers we have access to the largest flood of information ever seen. The Internet is truly an amazing invention and we should be grateful to live in such a wonderful time. Some mere 20 years ago people still had to go to the library to get even the slightest bit of information, nowadays it has become so much easier.
Embrace the opportunities, get knowledgeable and develop a mind of your own. Don’t blindly follow advice because some self-called guru tells you to this and that.
You are the gatekeeper to your Mind and you should act in that way.
Belief#4 – Attachment to other people
Do you know these kinds of people that think just because they are single they cannot be happy and live a life worthy to enjoy? Because I do (and yes, I have been there too so don’t freak out!).
The problem with this belief is that you put your own happiness into the hands of somebody else, again avoiding responsibility for your own life. While it is true that being in love with somebody you care about is something absolutely wonderful you should know that it is not a necessity. Neither is it a deciding factor in how to feel about yourself. You can feel good about yourself without having that “Significant Other”. Be your own loving kindness and you won’t need anybody else to make you happy.
Talking happiness, it is a fact that you can not become happy – you can only BE happy. And being happy means doing it in the very moment, not waiting for someone to make you happy. Further, would you want to make somebody happy that looks totally unhappy and sad all the time? Would you want to invest your time in somebody that needs constant approval from outside to feel good about them self?
Probably not, because you are a decent human being and pretty dedicated or else you wouldn’t be here reading this. Be the reason you are smiling and find your own inner peace.
If you have reached the point in life where you don’t need anybody else to make you happy other than yourself – Congratulations, you just basically won at life!
Belief#5 – “It’s all about the Money”
If you are looking for a surefire way to failure in any aspect of life than just focus on the monetary part of it. I guarantee you that you are destined to fail. This is simply because if you only care about the money than you will act like somebody that only cares about the money and you will attract exactly those kinds of people – superficial, selfish and greedy.
While it is true that money plays an important role in our lives we should not disregard that life is not about money. Life is about enjoying the simple things, fulfilling your passion, living your dreams and loving your family, friends and the lord. You can enjoy the best side of life without having lots of money – of course, having lots of money solves problems but it also brings more problems. There are a bunch of financially well off people who look worse (emotionally) than “poor” people.
I don’t want to disrespect money as the thing it is – don’t get me wrong. I love money, and money is such a powerful and wonderful thing if spend rightly. Money is a bit like fire, it has the power to simply light a candle and make a room brighter or it can burn down an entire forest.
With Money you can provide an income for others, you can provide shelter for others, you can provide yourself and your family with the basic needs. More than that, money allows you to spend it on the things you love. But while money can do all these great things, it can’t buy you happiness and it can’t buy you joy. Happiness in life is achieved by doing the things you love and spending time with the people and things you love.
Therefore the belief “it’s all about the money” is wrong. Money is simply a by-product of what really matters, and what really matters is care, love, and compassion. Imagine earning a living with the thing you love to do, would you care about the money?
Would you rather earn 10’000$ a Month in a Job you hate and that forces you to trade most of your time or would you rather earn 5000$ a Month by doing something that you love, gives you the freedom and above all doesn’t even feel like “work”?
You see, it is all a question of priorities and by making money your number 1 priority you disregard what really matters – living life.
Bonus Tip – F*CK YESTERDAY!
Now if you’ve made it this far and have endured reading this blog, then first of all – kudos to you! It takes a lot of dedication and interest to stick until the end. As a sign of appreciation (and a sign that my style of writing doesn’t annoy you that much) I want to give you a bonus tip! It is another belief that many people carry around with them and it prevents them from reaching their true potential.
It is the belief that the past matters and that you are ultimately limited in your future undertakings because of what happened in your past.
Let me tell you this crystal-clear: the entire universe doesn’t give a single shit about your past!
Fact is, nobody gives a damn shit about your past besides the people who have nothing else to do than looking for some failures in your past.
And these kinds of people should be dismissed from your life as soon as possible anyways. Not even you should give a shit about your past because the past is gone and yesterday is nothing but a memory. There is no such thing on earth that allows you to go back in time to change your past.
So why worry about it? God gives us the choice to live a completely new life every day we are blessed to wake up. Yes, it is that simple! You can simply live a new life the very moment you wake up. Nobody forces you to do the things you are doing currently. Yes, you might have responsibilities and you might be dependent on a job to provide for your family but still, that doesn’t prevent you from thinking out of the box, looking for new ways to make money (if that’s all you care about – go back to Belief#5 ).
“Don’t look back, it’s bad for your neck”
– Gary Vaynerchuck-
I want to especially thank everybody that took their time to read this article until the end. You absolutely rock my world and It is an honor to write, knowing that there are people out there who find inspiration in my writings. This wouldn’t be fun without you. You can and should go after your dreams because nobody will do it for you.
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