No matter what happens to us, no matter how the circumstances are – you are ALWAYS responsible. Now don’t get me wrong.
I’m not saying you are TO BLAME.
Being responsible and being to blame are two very different things. You may not be to blame for the rainy days in your life but you are responsible for how you react to them.
Today’s article is all about being responsible.
Taking responsibility in life is something we all have to do sooner or later. As we grow older and gather more experience we automatically become more responsible.
Some people like to blame others for whatever goes wrong in their life but they are just trying to look for excuses why they are not responsible for it.
In reality, we can always choose how to react to a certain situation, no matter how unfair it may seem. It all depends on perspective and it takes some character to be able to take responsibility.
We will work on building that muscle.
Take this little anecdote from German Author Bodo Schäfer’s Book “The Laws of Winners” :
Imagine an orange. Within the orange is, of course – juice, the most delicious orange juice that man has ever tasted. Now if you would squeeze the orange, naturally juice would come out of it. Even if you would smash the orange with a hammer, the result would be the delicious orange juice flowing out of the fruit.
The morale of this story is that no matter what happens to an orange, it will always respond with what is within – orange juice.
We can act like an orange and always respond with what’s within us – or we can blame other people and therefore give them POWER and CONTROL.
You are 100% responsible
To live our life to the fullest we have to start taking responsibility. Only if we are responsible for our lives we can truly achieve greatness.
Like I mentioned before, we are not to blame for everything that happens but we are responsible for how we react towards something or somebody. You are not to blame for the economy in your country, you haven’t chosen the country you were born in and neither the language you grew up with – but you are responsible for it.
You are responsible for how you deal with the economy, you are responsible for the way you use the language you have learned growing up.
We can always choose between making an excuse and seeing an opportunity.
Responsibility consists of RESPOND, so we can always respond in a certain way.
This means responding according to our goals and beliefs. You won’t achieve much if you always look for excuses and blame other people for failing.
You will grow and become stronger if you always see difficulties as an opportunity to grow. Life tends to serve us lessons over and over again until we learn them.
Until we choose the right response to a certain situation, we will always be facing it again until we make the right decision and therefore the right response.
From now on, you’ll take 100% responsibility for everything in your life.
You are responsible for the first thing that comes to your mind when you wake up until the last thing that you do before going to sleep. Whenever something bad or unfair happens to you, you recall that you are responsible for how you react towards it.
You can separate from being to blame and being responsible for something, doing this will help you to deal with life’s ups and downs.
Being responsible in Business
If you achieve great results in your business or just average ones, it is all up to you.
You are responsible – it doesn’ matter if you are self-employed or an employee. You are responsible for your results. It is not your company’s task to guarantee you a high income or a promotion. It is not their responsibility to push you up the ladders. You have to take an active role in shaping reality.
You can always choose to do more and educate yourself better in order to earn a better income. No one will come around and just hand you a golden opportunity out of nowhere. It is not your fiancee’s task to get you out of bed and into traffic so you can go to work.
Luck favors the brave so be brave and take the steps you might fear to take.
Ask the questions you want to ask and that will give you insight into things. Maybe you’ve been considering a pay rise and haven’t found the guts to ask for it – unfortunately, your boss will not come to you and ask you if you want to earn more. Even if they respond with a no, you can choose how to react to it. You are the person deciding your income.
Bonus Tip: It is not the company that decides how much you earn – it is the market. You will always earn your worth according to the market. Find out what your unique talents and skills are so you can create VALUE in the market. Bigger value yields bigger payment. The more value you can add to a certain marketplace, the more it is ready to pay for that value. Don’t worry if you haven’t found your unique talent yet. Colonel Sanders (Founder of KFC) was above 70 years of age when he launched his world-famous restaurant. Samuel L. Jackson was an unknown actor for decades before he had his breakthrough. You can only lose if you give up – so do me the favor and never give yourself!
Being responsible in Relationships
It is tough enough to take responsibility for our own reactions. So taking responsibility for a bad reaction is even tougher.
It is not always wise to answer with what is thrown at us.
If somebody shoots at us with poisonous words and we get wounded by them, getting angry and exhausting ourselves will only enable the poison to go deeper into our system.
Imagine being a sea full of water. Now some people may come and sit in front of you and simply stare at your beauty. Other people might come and throw trash into you. There’s also a bunch of life living inside you so you are constantly in motion. No matter the circumstances – a sea is always the calm sea. If people come by and compliment the beauty of the sea, it remains calm. If somebody throws trash into the sea, it remains calm. If somebody yells at the sea and insults it, it remains calm.
This is what Bruce Lee meant when he said: “Be like Water”.
Water is always calm. If you put water into a bottle and throw the bottle around, the water will still be the same calm water it was before. If you put soda into the bottle, you guess what happens if you throw it around. This is the choice we have daily, we can try to be like water and remain calm or we can foam and explode like a bottle of soda.
Often it is our preceding act that causes an unfriendly response within somebody.
Knowing that we are responsible for that keeps the power and control on our side and we can now undertake the necessary steps to solve the problem.
It is easier to change our own habits and perspectives than trying to change someone else’s. Imposing too many rules and expectations unto others makes it impossible for them to please us.
This results in disputes and unnecessary arguing. We do ourselves a big favor if we take responsibility and therefore keep the POWER and CONTROL to ourselves.
You are the Captain of your own Ship. From now on, you won’t blame others for the way your ship is going. You are in full control and take responsibility for the course you have set yourself. If the seas get rough and stormy, you will guide your ship through that storm. As the Captain of your ship, you know that a ship moves slowly but CONSISTENTLY. There is no need to hurry.
Enjoy your ride!